Blessing for a Marriage by James Dillet Freeman
May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage should bring, and may life grant you also patience, tolerance, and understanding.
May you always need one another – not so much to fill your emptiness as to help you to know your fullness. A mountain needs a valley to be complete; the valley does not make the mountain less, but more; and the valley is more a valley because it has a mountain towering over it. So let it be with you and you.
May you need one another, but not out of weakness.
May you want one another, but not out of lack.
May you entice one another, but not compel one another.
May you embrace one another, but not out encircle one another.
May you succeed in all important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces.
May you look for things to praise, often say, “I love you!” and take no notice of small faults.
If you have quarrels that push you apart, may both of you hope to have good sense enough to take the first step back.
May you enter into the mystery which is the awareness of one another’s presence – no more physical than spiritual, warm and near when you are side by side, and warm and near when you are in separate rooms or even distant cities.
May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another happy.
May you have love, and may you find it loving one another.
These are the hands of your best friend, young, strong and full of love,
These are the hands that you will hold on our wedding day as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, forever.
These are the hands that will work alongside yours as you build your future together.
These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years,
And with the slightest touch will comfort you like no other.
These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief wracks your mind.
These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes,
Tears of sorrow and tears of joy.
These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.
These are the hands that will help hold your family as one.
These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.
And lastly, these are the hands that even wrinkled and aged will still be reaching for yours,
Still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.
Apache Marriage Blessing
(from the novel Blood Brother)
Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be the shelter for each other.
Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be the warmth for the other.
Now you are two persons, but there is only one life before.
Go now to your dwelling place to enter into the days of your life together.
And may your days be good and long upon the earth.
May the Blessings of God rest upon you,
May God’s Peace abide with you,
May God’s Presence illuminate your hearts,
Now and forever more.