Vows

Your vows to each other should be words from your heart, a promise that captures your love for your spouse and your commitment to them. Vows can be funny, meditative, poetic, or traditional; you can create your own, select vows that you have read or heard before, or weave together promises from different sources. They can be lines that you recite after the officiant, or a simple “I do” to a series of questions that your officiant asks. Most vows can be adapted to suit either style. Here are some examples you might choose from…

“I do”
Do you, Doug take Samantha, to be your wife;
do you promise to be her loving and loyal partner, to cherish and keep her, in sickness and in health; and, forsaking all others, to be faithful only to her as long as you both shall live?  …  I do.

Traditional (each line is repeated after being read by the officiant)
I Shawn,
take you, Mark
to be my husband,
I promise to cherish and keep you,
for better or worse,
for richer or poorer,
in sickness and in health,
and forsaking all others,
to faithful only to you,
so long as we both shall live.

Variation 1
I, Samantha, take you Dawn,
to be my wife,
my partner in life
and my one true love.
I will cherish our friendship
and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.
I will trust you and honor you,
I will laugh with you and cry with you.
I will love you faithfully,
through the best and the worst,
through the difficult and the easy.
Whatever may come
I will always be there.
As I have given you my hand to hold,
so I give you my life to keep.

Variation 2
I Natalia,
take you Sergio,
to be my husband,
my partner in life
and my one true love.
I will cherish our union
and love you more each day
than I did the day before.
I will trust you and respect you,
laugh with you and cry with you,
loving you faithfully through good times and bad,
regardless of the obstacles we may face together.
From this day forward
I give you my hand, my heart, my love
and I will stay with you for all eternity.

Variation 3
Do you Steven take Diana to be your wife?
Gend: “I do”
Then repeat these words after me…

I, Steven,
take you, Diana,
to be my wife
to love you and to cherish you
to help you and to honor you
to give you understanding and comfort
in whatever the future may bring.
From this day forward, I am yours.

Another…
I, Brian, take you, Jeffrey,
as my friend and love,
beside me and apart from me,
in laughter and in tears,
in conflict and tranquility,
asking that you be no other than yourself,
loving what I know of you,
trusting what I do not know yet,
in all the ways that life may find us.

There are many resources on the internet that provide examples of vows and exercises to do if you want to write your own. So as not to recreate the wheel, I’ll just post a few links here that I have come across that I have found helpful.

The Knot of course has a set of tips for writing your own vows.

Los Angeles wedding officiant gives his vows to his husband

Offbeat Bride offers a lot of non-traditional vows… it’s a great collection!

I thought I’d also post the vows from my own wedding…

I, Jon, give you, Narcisso,
this vow of my love.
I give you my heart, full of love and tenderness for you.
I give you my ears, which tune to your voice first.
I give you my vulnerability, which finds comfort in your strength.
I give you my spirit, which seeks your spirit as its partner in the dance of life.
I give you my desire to be your most beloved companion through all the joys and trails of our life together.

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